The Alzheimer’s Caregiver Blame Game

When you blame a person living with dementia for something they did you should try to remember – it is not their fault.

Caregivers often blame dementia patients for things they have no control over.

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer’s Reading Room

I was talking to an elderly woman that was having a particularly difficult time dealing with her husband who lives with Alzheimer’s disease.

When we started talking before I knew it she was off and running. She talked non-stop for about twenty minutes. She was clearly stressed out. It did not surprise me, I have seen and heard it before.

At the core of what she was saying was a single theme, blame.

In Alzheimer’s World persons living with Alzheimer’s are different. They often lose some of their social and communication skills; and, the ability to articulate how they feel.
The woman was blaming her husband for all the things you could imagine. But mostly she was blaming him for being ungrateful and for a lack of understanding.

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